Before I had Rian, I was convinced that women/parents could have it all – a career, a family, a healthy social life, and time for themselves. It’s been nine-and-a-half months since Rian arrived and I can tell you that I have some, but I surely do not have it all.
Balancing work and home is a constant struggle. One of my goals for the new year is to get to work on the earlier side, in an effort to have uninterrupted time to get things crossed of my do-to list before everyone gets in the office; my hope is to be able to leave by 5:15pm,at the latest. This gets me home by 6:20pm should the stars align and there be no train delays.
Our weekends are often packed with family commitments, house cleaning, laundry, and grocery shopping. Maithil and I have been making a conscious effort to complete some chores during the course of week. For example, I’ll put a load of laundry in before dinner and by the time we are done with dinner/dishes, the laundry is ready for folding. But, after a long day at work, it is sometimes tough to motivate myself to do anything that requires much physical activity.
Scheduling time with friends is no longer easy. Seeing friends on weeknights and not getting home before 8:30pm equates to no time with Rian that day. Weekend plans have to be made in advance so that we can plan the day around Rian’s schedule. Friends with kids (we do not have many of those) are a lot easier to make plans with because they are in the same predicament as us. I imagine that our social lives will improve once Rian is a little older.
Time for myself – what does that mean? I would love to start making the gym a regular part of my daily routine again but currently, there is just no time or energy for this. I can talk about this for pages but I think you get the point. Plus, pumping burns enough calories for now!
Overall, at this point in my life, I have to agree with Pepsi CEO, Indra Nooyi and say that perhaps women can’t have it all. But, I am not willing to settle on the fact that this will always be the case. Each day, my juggling act improves just a tiny bit. That progress is enough to keep me striving for a better balance.
Fellow parents, how is your juggling act? How do you manage your day-to-day?